Month: January 2026

Episode 18

Can one promise save a relationship or can one mistake destroy everything? So let’s see the story of Meri Zindagi Hai Tu where there was only a moment’s gap between hope and destruction in the relationship of Kamyar and Ira. Every story has a center and the center of this story is a promise made on the wedding day. Kamyar tells Ira that I will become the kind of Kamyar you want me to be. This was the foundation on which the building of his future was to be built. But this was also the height from which everything was to fall. Initially, we are shown a completely changed Kamyar. A person who has completely buried his old personality in the love of Ayra. This was not just a change. It was the hope of a new beginning, of a new life. Here two completely different aspects of Kamyar’s personality are visible. On one side was the carefree and party-loving old Kamyar and on the other side was this new Kamyar who was completely loyal to Ayra and for Ayra, this was the change that laid the foundation of her trust. And Kamyar’s promises were not just empty words. Gifting a new car to Ayra just before the wedding was a solid proof that his transformation was real. It wasn’t just a gift. This was a living proof of his promises which convinced Ayra that the new Kamyar was the real one. But then comes that one night which shakes the foundations of this apparently complete change. This is the moment when the first deep crack appears in the carefully worn veil and the seeds of doubt are sown. Disaster begins with a wrong decision. One last bachelor party with friends. There the intoxication overpowers him to such an extent that he loses control. And then in this state of unconsciousness he makes an even more terrible mistake. He insists on going to Ayra’s house. Where he stands directly in front of his father. In a situation which was unbearable for any father. These words of Ayra’s father were not just a warning. It was as if a line had been drawn. This was the companion of this night and a strong indication of the storm to come. A father’s expression of deep concern for his daughter’s future made the consequences of Kamayar’s mistake even more serious. Here one mistake is followed by another and more fundamental one. The next day, when a worried Ayra asks him, Kamyar hides the truth. He tells a lie, citing illness, excessive sleep, and a silent phone, and this lie is even more devastating than the mistake he made that night because it destroys the foundation of trust he had built with so much hard work. So now we reach the climax of the story. That moment where everything was about to fall apart. A wedding day that should have been a happy occasion. That becomes the stage for the collapse of this castle of lies. A humiliating and amazing manner in front of everyone. Just think, the wedding preparations are going on. Kamyar is once again repeating his promise of being a changed person in front of everyone. The atmosphere is filled with hope. And then suddenly a video plays and that highest moment of hope falls into the deepest pit of destruction in an instant. This video has completely exposed the truth. It had everything. Kamyar’s intoxication at the party , the blatant lie he tells Ayra and his friend’s stinging remark that people who change, change again and again. This evidence was so complete that Kamyar had no scope for denial. And at the centre of all this destruction was Ira’s cancellation of her work. His alpha is I hate you. Get out of here. This was not just an expression of anger. This was the announcement of the end of Kamyar’s world. This was the death certificate of this relationship, complete and final. So what does a person do when everything falls apart? In the case of Kamyaab, we see a complete cessation of his transformation and a psychological return. Let us take stock of the situation after that. There is a psychological term to understand this. Reversion to self. In simple words, it is returning to its original state. Especially when a person faces severe pressure or failure. Exactly the same thing happened with Kamyar. His new form vanished in an instant. Now let us sleep from Kamyar’s point of view. All his months of hard work and efforts to change himself were reduced to ashes in a single moment. He realized that one mistake of his had ruined all his good work. And this realization plunged him into deep despair. And in this state of despair, he tears off the mask of his new form and throws it away. What do the noble people get from its words ? Now no one will change the camera. The drama is over. This was an open declaration of his complete return to his old carefree personality. So in the end we come to that one question. Was Kamyar’s transformation really a sham? Or was his Maji a shadow from which he could never escape? The answer to this story perhaps lies in our own perspectives on change, trust, and human nature. Today we will talk about this crucial turning point in Ayra and Kamran’s story where everything fell apart. The details of the recent incident that we have lead us directly to the wedding that took place and, unfortunately, did not. But today we will not just look at what happened but will try to understand why it happened. The real question is whether Kamran was really trying to change himself and failed or was it all a big drama from start to finish. This is a very interesting question because in this story we see two different Kamrans. One is the one who is in front of Ira, who swears, makes promises and the other one, you can say, claims to be a changed person. And the second one is Kamran who is behind the scenes. Whose old habits are not leaving him. So the purpose of today’s conversation is to understand the difference between what was reality and what was pretense. Let’s start with the first crack in this pretense. Just one night before the wedding, Ira’s father, Doctor Sahib, finds Kamran drunk. This was by no means a trivial matter. Kamran was also saying that he would form a political party and Doctor Sahib would be its head. Seeing this scene, a big test arises for the doctor. Absolutely. This is the first and biggest danger signal. That’s what it’s called, the red flag. This is the moment where Kamran’s true face is revealed to Doctor Sahib. His sentence, your condition is not good at this time. We will talk in the morning. This may appear very soothing but behind it lies the intense anxiety and helplessness of a father. He is caught between his daughter’s happiness and Kamran’s reality. But here a question arises. Doctor Sahib does not tell anything to Ira the next morning. He simply asks her if she is happy. Some would say he did n’t want to trouble his daughter before her wedding. But ca n’t it also be said that by that silence, he foolishly gave Kamran another chance and took away Ayra’s right to decide for herself. You have put your finger on the right spot. This is an important moral aspect of this story. Look, on one hand there is the love of a father who wants to save his daughter from breaking down. He might be thinking that maybe this is a one-time mistake and by telling him about it, I will spoil the biggest day of his life. But on the other hand, as you said, this silence is equivalent to blindfolding Ayra. She is gambling on the hope that Kamran will change and it is a gamble that is going to cost her dearly and Ayra is confident that Kamran has changed. I have no complaints against him. He makes this situation even more painful. And then comes a twist in the story where Ayra herself starts getting worried. A day before the wedding, Kamran does not pick up her phone. He remains missing the whole day. This part is very interesting to me because Ayra ‘s first rebuke is not anger but figure. She immediately reaches his house with her friend Naveen. What does this indicate? Is this love or had the balance of power in that relationship already deteriorated? This is a very deep matter. Apparently it seems to be love and concern. But if you look at it psychologically, it is a sign of a controlling relationship. Kamran has taken it to such a level that his absence creates more fear than anger in Ayra. He is not worried about why Kamran did this but whether he is alright. His friend Naveen’s saying that what people will say will have to be kept aside. This shows that Ayra is breaking a big social principle and going to his house. Just because Kamran ignored him. And when she reaches there, Kamran’s reply seems like an excuse taken out of a book. I was unwell. The phone was on silent. He says the phone was on silent. I didn’t even know. But amidst all this apology, he asks a very strange question. If you come to know that I have become the same as before, what will happen to your actions ? This is almost like a crime. This is more than a crime. This is a trick. This is what is called a tried and tested technique of a manipulator. He wants to see what Ayra’s tolerance level is. He is not telling the truth directly but is creating a fake situation and then investigating its refutation. He is thinking what will happen if he is caught in the future? Will Ayra leave him or forgive him? It is not the feeling of guilt within him that is coming out but it is a plan made out of the fear of being caught in the future. Wow, I hadn’t thought of that from Javi and Ira’s answer is absolutely WAZ. I will leave you. She draws a line. But look at Kamran’s cleverness. Instead of being afraid of this answer, he uses it for his next move. He goes straight to Ayra’s father. Yes. And that scene is a masterclass in manipulation. He goes to the doctor and pretends to have lost his memory. He blames his friends and then plays the biggest bet. He makes Ira his shield. His saying, Uncle, if you don’t trust me. By now you would have broken the marriage by telling the truth to Ira. This is pure emotional blackmail. He is trapping the doctor in the web of his own silence. And then swears by Ira. I swear by Ira. I have not done anything intentionally. This is like hammering the final nail. What could be better for a father than swearing by his daughter? Absolutely. He knows that Doctor Sahib’s weakness is Ira. He uses this type as a weapon and the doctor is once again rendered helpless. He forgives him but his warning is very strict. If my daughter gets hurt because of you, I will not care about the fact that she is your wife. But by then it is too late. Kamran had got the time and opportunity he needed. So he convinced everyone , convinced everyone and now he has reached the final destination, the wedding day. Here he takes his acting to a new height. His speech at the time of marriage is not an ordinary speech. That is a public announcement. There is a performance. You used the word performance and it is absolutely correct. He is not just talking to Ira. He is making every person present there a witness. Its words: You will say it is morning, it is morning, you will say it is evening, it is evening. I will never have any complaints. These are not the words of a lover. These are the words of a man who is promising to completely destroy himself. This is so far from reality that it even sounds strange. This is a dream that he is selling to everyone and by asking everyone to clap, he is getting everyone to approve of this dream. And that’s why when the reality sets in, she’s so devastated because she had set her expectations sky high. As soon as the last words of the Nikah are being recited , someone says, watch this video for a second and then everything ends. That video is not just a proof. That’s like blowing up the entire palace built by Kamran with dynamite. Absolutely. It is very important that this video is played publicly. This is not just Ayra’s caste deception. It becomes a public spectacle. The new character of Kamran, which Kamran had created with so much hard work, gets shattered in front of everyone in an amazing manner. Now there is no way back. Basri’s evidence proves every kind of promise and every apology false in a moment. The scenes after that are very painful. Ira is heartbroken and her anger and pain are palpable. That sentence of his, I am disgusted with you. You are a bad person. It’s not just anger. This is the sound of the breaking of the trust on which he had staked his entire life. And it is also very interesting that his family told him to forget it and consider it a bad dream. This is a common method of comforting. But Ayra’s answer is much deeper. She says I should forget that it was my wedding today. Forget that he cheated on me. This shock is not a bad dream that can be forgotten after waking up in the morning. This is a reality that has become a part of his life. It is a wound that may never fully heal. But now let us come to the last and perhaps the most important part of the story, Kamran’s rejection of the action. What does he do after the marriage breaks up? He goes to his former friend Faria and puts all the blame on him. He says you have an evil eye on me. What is this? Does he really think he is innocent? This is the essence of his character. A narcissist or self-centered person never admits his mistakes. In his mind, he has a hero whose great story had a tragic ending. He considers himself oppressed. His saying that I had worked hard to repair myself and in one stroke everything was over. This reveals that he views his execution not as a mistake but as a misfortune. For which someone else is responsible. Faria luck friend but not himself. So Faria’s answer is enough drama is a kind of unfolding of the story. She is the only character who has been observing his pretense from the beginning and finally shows him the mirror. Yes, that is the last witness of his drama. And when Kamran says he is not doing drama, Faria’s reply is the most powerful. Now I ca n’t even do it. The drama is over and it’s true. The curtain has fallen. So if we come back to our initial discussion, what does all this make us think? Was Kamran trying to change or was it all a performance? His last words say a lot. In my opinion, Shahid points towards performance only. Real change comes from within and the first step is to admit your mistake. Kamran did not do this even once. The purpose of his every effort, every apology was only to get Ayra. Not to improve myself. Her transformation was like a dress that she had to wear until her wedding day. And as soon as that purpose was accomplished or he was in danger, he would throw away his clothes. And its last sentence when he leaves Faria’s house. Decency is gone to hell. It was as if his real face was hidden behind the mask. He is not saying that I have failed. He is saying that the drama of decency is over. Now I’m back to who I was. Of course that mask has come off and it leaves us with a very important and perhaps, for some, unsettling thought. This story is not just about Kamran and Aira. It forces us to think about the nature of forgiveness and second chances. So then the final question becomes when do we give someone a second chance. Especially when we love them. So how do we know if his transformation is real or just a good performance? Is there a way to differentiate between reality and drama or will it always be a gamble? Today we have a drama script that tells the story of Kamyar and Ira. Love, an attempt to change oneself and then a huge betrayal on the wedding day. Absolutely. And it has a very strong dramatic foundation. A man tries to change for his love, but his past comes to light just when he is about to start his new life. This is a classic idea. Yes, and speaking of this idea, I think we should first talk about the depth of the characters. Especially Kamyar who is the centre of the story. Correct. The script shows him changing for Ira. But this transformation umm felt a little hollow to me. What do you think? You have caught it from the right place. The first major issue is that the reasons behind the characters’ decisions are not strong enough to be believed. Good. The issue is that Kamyar’s transformation seems more like an external need than an internal desire. He is not changing because he hates his old life. Rather because this is a condition to get Ayra. We are not surprised when it falters because its foundation was weak. We don’t see his inner conflict. That stubbornness is missing. Isn’t it? Absolutely. Where is that stubbornness when his friends are pulling him towards his old life? The inner battle that every person who truly wants to change has to fight is not present in the script. You are right. It’s like we just saw the result. He changed. But the difficult journey behind it was not seen. Yes. And I think the same issue is seen in the character of Ayra’s father as well. Oh yes, absolutely. A father discovers that his would-be son-in-law was drunk a few days before the wedding and does not tell his daughter. This decision is very difficult to digest. Very difficult. This is a convenience to move the story forward but if seen from the character’s point of view, it seems irrelevant. Why would any father do this? That’s why a father would take such a big risk with his daughter’s life ? Does he trust Kamyar that much? If yes, then why were we not shown this trust being formed? Correct. Because of this, the character of Walid seems like a pawn in the story rather than a loving father. Which the writer used as per his wish just to reach the climax. So how can it be improved? How can we make these characters’ decisions more realistic and meaningful? I think the solution lies in showing his inner conflict on screen. To succeed, we need a scenario where it is actually put to the test. For example, suppose his friends take him to a bachelor party. There they force him to drink alcohol. They taunt that you have become a slave of your wife. Good. And Kamyar vehemently denies it. He says no, I have promised Ayra and he gets up and leaves from there. From this one scene we will come to know that this change is not just a show, he is really trying. Yes, this will show his stubbornness. Absolutely. And then when he weakens later, the impact will be more profound because we have seen his efforts. This is a great idea. This will also raise the stakes and what can be done for Walid’s character? For Walid, we have to bring out his confusion. A scene could be included where he talks to his wife about this. Hum He says I know about Kamyar’s mistake. If I tell Ira, her happiness and her dreams will be shattered and if I do n’t tell her, I fear that I am putting her future at stake. What shall I do? This will look very realistic. I can see your truth in your eyes. But if you betray my daughter, I will not spare you. Wow. This would make his decision seem like a calculated risk rather than a weakness that a father might take for the happiness of his daughter. These changes will make these characters three-dimensional. Their decisions will not seem coincidental but a result of their personality and circumstances. Absolutely. Strengthening the decisions of the characters strengthens the foundation of the story and this foundation takes us to the biggest moment of the story i.e. the climax. Where I think there’s another issue. Are you talking about the video that plays on the wedding day ? Absolutely. That is a very powerful moment. But the way she appears seems a bit sudden and coincidental. This brings up another major point. The climax of the story feels like a coincidence rather than a logical outcome. Yes, this is a classic case of deus ex machina. That is, to solve the problem of the story, suddenly something comes from outside for which no foundation had been laid beforehand. In the script, at the very moment of the Nikah, a screen turns on and Kamyar’s video starts playing. Yes. But the question is who made this video ? Who drove it? And most importantly, why, without answers to these questions, Kamyar’s ruin does not seem to be the result of his own fault but rather the result of bad luck. Good. That means it seems as if the universe is conspiring against him. Absolutely. So you are saying that he himself should be responsible for his destruction and not the circumstances. Yes, that’s what I mean. In a good story, the characters suffer the consequences of their actions. If the person playing the video is an anonymous person, it has no caste impact. Correct. But imagine if this was done by a character we already know. Someone who has a reason to take revenge on Kamyar or Ayra. This naturally increases the stakes in the story. Of course the climax no longer becomes a coincidence but a deliberate attack. This is very interesting. So who do you think this character could be? There is a small hint in the script. At the end of the story, when everything is over, Kamyar meets one of his old friends, Faria. Yes, that comforts him. What if this Faria is behind all this? Suppose she always liked Kamayar and was jealous of Ayra. Good. She was present at that bachelor party and she deliberately made a video of Kamyar by getting him drunk. Oh, this will change the course of the story. This is the purpose. Now see, when Faria finally tells Kamyar that whatever you want will happen, then this sentence will no longer seem like a sentence of consolation but a sentence of cold admission of guilt. Absolutely. The spectators will realize that the real culprit is sitting in front of them. Wow, this one change not only makes the climax more twisted but also adds another layer of deception to the story. Yes, this now becomes not just a story of Kamyar’s lies but also a story of his friend’s betrayal. I really liked this idea. In this way, by connecting the climax to the characters, the central idea of ​​the story also becomes deeper. Absolutely, and on a central note, I think the script tackles the big question of whether a person can change in a bit of a hurry. Yes. And this brings us to our third and final point. You mean the message of the story is a bit simple. Yes, the third point is that the story misses the opportunity to explore complex issues like change and forgiveness in depth. Well, explain this. When Kamyar’s reality is revealed, he gives up almost immediately. He says decency is gone and goes back to his old life. And Ira also immediately removes him from her life. Absolutely, this Hadda Amal is very clear and straightforward. Black and white. But real life is not so simple. Change is a long and painful process in which people fall and then try to get up again. So you’re saying that Kamyar giving up so quickly undermines the entire struggle his character had. It absolutely sends the message that if you fail once, it’s game over. But the more interesting question is what happens after failure? Is true repentance possible? Can forgiveness be granted? Yes. The script touches on these questions but then leaves them unexplored. This reduces the impact of the story. It becomes a dramatic episode but does not become a gripping story. So how to make the ending of the story more interesting and intriguing? Should Kamyar and Ayra finally get together? It is not necessary that he gets it. But their journey could be made more complicated. Ok? For example, Kamyar should confront his partner about his mistake instead of giving up immediately. He spent some time alone. Try to understand that his real crime was not drinking alcohol. Rather, it was to lie to the person he loved. We try to apologize to Ira even though we know that she might not forgive us. This will make the implementation of the change more realistic. This is not a destination but a continuous struggle. And what about Ayra’s character? Will she remain just an oppressed character? Its journey can also be given depth. Imagine if after some time, Ira finds out from her father that he already knew about this night. But he did not tell it. If this revelation happens, it will destroy Ira’s world. Absolutely. Her anger will not only be directed at Kamyar but also at the person she trusted the most. His father. So now he has to face more complex questions about trust, protection and forgiveness. Yes. Is a father’s lie forgivable? Because he wanted her happiness. If so, can Kamyar’s lie be understood to some extent ? This is a very powerful thought. This will change the mood of the story. This will no longer be just a story about one boy’s mistake. Absolutely, it will become a complicated tale of trust and human weakness. Of course, this will not give Nazreen any easy answers. He will be forced to think what he would have done if he were in the place of those characters ? And that’s what a good story does. She doesn’t give you answers but forces you to ask the right questions. This is really a great solution. So let’s reveal today’s conversation. We discussed three important points. Ok. First, strengthen the character of the characters. Especially by showing the inner conflict of Kamyar’s transformation and the thinking behind his father’s decision. Secondly, instead of making the climax of the story coincidental, link it to the actions of the characters. Like making the person who leaked the video an important part of the story who has a motive of his own. And thirdly, to give more depth to the central idea of ​​the story. Instead of presenting the issues of change and forgiveness in simple black and white, explore their complexities so that the impact of the story is deeper. By implementing these suggestions, this script has the potential to go beyond a simple tale of love and betrayal and become a powerful and memorable story of human relationships and decisions. There is a lot of power in this. I feel the same. We look forward to seeing a new draft of your work. You can send it back to us. Cheers at The Debate. Today we will try to understand the character of Kamyar. A man who returns to his old life a few days before his wedding and his whole world turns upside down. And the central point of debate among us is whether Kamyar’s attempt to change himself was genuine? A sincere struggle that failed because of a mistake made in a weak moment or it was all a sham from the beginning. A mask that finally came off. I clearly believe that Kamyar never changed. His decency was just a means to get Ayra. And when the time for the real test came, his reality was revealed to everyone. Whereas I would say that Kamyar’s transformation was a genuine and very difficult struggle and it is sheer injustice to undo his months of hard work on the basis of one mistake. See, near me, Kamyar’s story is about a man who really wanted to change and it is not easy. He himself admitted to Ayra’s father that I have repaired myself with great difficulty. No drama queen says these words. This is said by a person who is really trying to mend his broken things. Yes, he made a huge, perhaps unforgivable, mistake by attending the party before the wedding. But we also have to look at Siya Sabak. She said, “My friends invited me. I don’t see this as an excuse, but rather as the pressure he faced. One weak moment can’t undo months of effort, and his regret was a bummer. The very next day, without regaining his composure, he went straight to Ayra’s father. He admitted his mistake and swore an oath. This is the action of a man who is ashamed of his actions and wants to save the relationship at all costs. I understand your point, but I see the same picture in completely different shades. What you call repair, I call a new coat of paint. Underneath, the rusty metal remained the same. Kamyar’s transformation was only as deep as was necessary to affect Ayra. His true nature—that careless and irresponsible man—was always hidden beneath the surface. And what time did he choose to come out ? Right before marriage. It was the most crucial turning point in his life. The biggest test of his resolve, and he was deeply affected by it.” He failed. You call it a moment of weakness. I call it a moment of truth. And as for his remorse, saying he does n’t remember anything is the most time-tested trick to shirk responsibility. But the real proof came from his own mouth after the marriage broke up. Enough of the drama, he admitted it was all a staged act. What more proof do you need? Let’s talk about his memory. You’re calling it a hoax, but is n’t it possible he was actually seriously drunk ? Medically, he’s a real thing. He’s not saying he didn’t do anything, but he’s saying he does n’t remember everything clearly. The distress on his face , the confusion when his friends were telling him stories from the night before, did n’t seem artificial. He wasn’t shirking responsibility. He was shocked by the reality of how he could stoop so low. Sorry. But this is a very flexible memory. He’s missing something. How could he be so conscious that he could argue with his friends, insist on going to Ayra’s house, and make grand plans to form a political party, yet he couldn’t remember his actions? This is indigestible. It’s just a way to minimize the severity of his mistake. A person who has truly changed admits his mistakes, whether he remembers them or not. He doesn’t say, “I don’t remember.” He says, “I made a mistake and I take responsibility for it.” Kamyar didn’t do that. So you’re saying he remembered everything and was deliberately lying. I’m saying that his claim of not remembering is part of his pattern. This is the same method of evasion that he probably used repeatedly in his past life. It’s an old habit, and old habits die hard. But his next action doesn’t fit this pattern. If he were truly shirking responsibility, he would have hidden. He would have hoped the matter would be hushed up. But what did he do? Did he? He went straight to Ayra’s father. It was a huge step. He chose to confront her. He apologized. He swore. He was desperate to save the relationship? No, wait a minute. You’re saying he went to his father himself. But was he really honest or because he was trapped ? His friends dropped him off outside Ayra’s house. He confronted her father. He knew the matter would be exposed. This wasn’t bravery, it was damage control. He went to save his impending marriage, not his honor. And I wasn’t the only one who noticed the lack of frankness in his words. Ayra’s father is an experienced man. What did he say, looking into her eyes ? I have no heart to believe you. A father can’t trade his daughter’s future, and he sensed her pretense. Her father’s suspicions were right, but he still gave it a chance. He did n’t stop the wedding. The real devastation was that video. The scene that was shown on the wedding day. That single moment made Kamayar a criminal in front of hundreds of people, without giving him any chance to explain. His first denial was a lie. Now, it was obviously him in the video. He could n’t deny it. But I think his lie had a deeper meaning. He was saying that this video isn’t my reality. It doesn’t reflect my months of hard work and efforts to change. It’s a mistake of one night. Not my true character. When someone is humiliated like this in public, it’s a natural human right to be vindicated. You call it humiliation. I call it accountability. That video wasn’t a lie. It was solid, irrefutable proof of his actions. It had proved Ayra’s biggest fear to be true. And what was his denial ? Denial. A person who is truly remorseful would succumb to that moment. He would say, “Yes, it’s me, and please forgive me.” But what did Kamayar do? He immediately denied it. He then told Ayra to believe him instead of the world. Instead of taking responsibility for his mistake, he instead put the burden on Ayra to prove his innocence. This is the same old flaw in his character: he’s willing to use others to save himself. I disagree. You’re evaluating his immediate actions, but ignoring his state afterward. When the relationship broke, he was completely shattered. His words were, “I gave you all my love, and just like that, it was all over in a flash.” This is the voice of a broken heart. He reverted to his old self and said, ” Enough of the drama, decency is over.” This was n’t his true nature. It was a rejection of a deep wound. It was a form of self-punishment. It was a statement that if this is the result of my best efforts, then what’s the point of being good ? It was a cry of despair. This is where our thinking fundamentally differs. You can call it a cry of despair. She says. I consider this the result of a classic self- sabotage pattern. When the pressure of change and the burden of remaining a decent person becomes too much, a person relentlessly retreats to their former, comfortable selves. Their decency had become a role for them, one they could no longer play. They immediately shed that role and blamed circumstances for their failure. A truly changed person doesn’t give up so easily. They fall, but then get back up and try to correct their mistakes. They don’t say, “I made a mistake. I will convince Ira. I will win her back.” No. He said, “Enough of the drama.” This clearly shows that the foundation of his transformation was built on sand, dependent solely on Ira’s approval. As soon as that approval was removed, the entire edifice collapsed. This is not true change, but opportunism. But is a person that simple? Isn’t it possible that he feels both things simultaneously ? True love? His stubbornness is the story of this struggle. He tried to become a better person and failed. But trying doesn’t mean he wasn’t sincere. Perhaps he deserved another chance. A chance where he would n’t have been publicly humiliated, but instead given a chance to express his views. And when would he have gotten that chance after marriage, when he would have made the same mistake again? Trust is like glass. Once broken, it’s very difficult to repair. Kamyar broke Ayra’s trust at the most crucial and critical moment. Love is important, but for a strong future, love alone isn’t enough. Trust is also needed, and Kamyar proved that he was n’t capable of it. Ayra and her father’s decision was harsh, but in my opinion, they were absolutely right. They saved themselves from the pain of a future that was almost certain. Ultimately, I stand by my point: Kamyar’s story is a It’s the story of an imperfect man’s genuine attempt to become better. His months-long struggle can’t be completely undone because of a single night’s mistake. We all make mistakes, and sometimes we fall very badly. That does n’t mean our attempts to rise were false. Perhaps if he had shown a little sympathy, the outcome would have been different. And I’ve come to the conclusion that Kamyar ‘s story teaches us that trust is earned through action, not through promises or words. Words are easy, but the true test of character comes when pressure is put on you. Kamyar failed that test. He proved that his new version was just a temporary pretense. The real person was the one he claimed to leave behind. The decision of Ira and her father was certainly painful, but in my view, it was necessary and right to secure the future. So, this case brings us to the complex question of how much we should rely on someone’s change. And for how long can one trust this? Does one mistake truly render all of Maji’s efforts meaningless? Or does that one mistake expose a hidden truth about the character that was always there? Indeed, this smut offers plenty of room for further reflection on those questions.

Episode 17

The drama Meri Zindagi Hai so the entire story revolves around just one decision. Yes , just one decision and that decision changes everything. And where does this decision come from? From the words of the central character Kamyar. When he suddenly makes an announcement in front of everyone which leaves everyone shocked. See, this wasn’t just a phrase. It was like a flood. With this one decision, family honour, forgotten past and trust in relationships, everything is at stake. So let’s go into details and see what happened immediately after Kamyar’s announcement ? This was no less than a blast for the family members. It was as if the sky had fallen on him. They thought what has Kamyar done ? This is a hasty decision and after some difficulty he had recovered a little, now he is going back to his old carelessness. But here, Kamiyar makes a very amazing move. He does not rebel but very wisely passes the buck to his parents. He says that I love only Ayra. But the final decision will be yours and from here begins the real battle to convince the families and that too on two different Mahajs. The change in the thinking of Kamyar’s parents is very interesting. At first, he was very strongly against it. But then they see how much Kamyar has changed. He has become responsible. Taking care of the business. He is taking care of everyone and they realise that the reason behind all this positive change is none other than Ayra. So they just forget the past and agree. On the other hand, Ayra’s father takes a very big and difficult step. He has promised his daughter to someone else. But he breaks this promise. Why? Because he puts his daughter’s happiness above everything else and sees the changes in Kamyar with his own eyes. But as soon as it seems everything is fine. All difficulties are over. Meanwhile, Kamyar’s past comes back knocking at the door in the form of a storm. And it’s not just one enemy. This is an attack from three sides. On one side, Ayra’s rejected proposal is Khawar. On the other hand, Kamyar’s old fiancée Faria and then a Pursrar woman from Maji, all three of them together try to end this relationship. A meeting is held for apology. But there Khabar spoils the atmosphere completely by insulting Kamyar in front of everyone. But this is where the difference between the old and new Kamyar is clearly visible. Without wasting a single moment, he stands in defense of Ayra. He proves who and what is most important in his life now. But the biggest twist in the story is that a mistake by Kamyar himself becomes a bigger threat than the external enemies. A mistake that creates the biggest crisis in this entire story. So what happens is that Kamyar goes to his old fiancée Faria’s party. There, on the pretext of just one drink, he drinks so much that he loses consciousness. And then in this condition he insists that he be dropped at Ayra’s house. And as a result, Ayra’s father sees her in this condition at the door and is heartbroken. He is very angry. The next morning Kamyar does not remember anything. He realises his mistake when, despite repeated calls, he does not get any response and Ira herself reaches his house to pick him up. It was a very embarrassing moment for everyone. Kamyar blunders, apologizes, swears and here Ira makes a very big, very difficult decision. She chooses to trust this Kamyar, whom she loved, and gives him one last chance. The apology was granted and the wedding preparations began again. But the shadow of that one night’s mistake continues to loom over their relationship. Especially a very strict warning comes from Ayra’s father. He clearly tells Kamyar that his trust has not been fully restored yet and if his daughter faces any trouble in future, he will even forget that he is her husband. Despite all this tension, both the families decide to go ahead with the marriage. Especially Kamyar’s family has considered Ayra as the peace and good fortune of their home. She hopes that after marriage, Kamyar will improve forever. There are only three days left for the wedding. Kamyar looks very happy on the surface but deep inside he is also nervous. There is still a war going on between the old man and the new man inside him. So they are going to tie the knot. But the real question remains the same. Can a love whose foundation is so fragile ever truly remain safe? Is this transformation of Kamyar true and permanent or will history repeat itself and the past will come at some point and destroy everything. Today we will take a deep look into the world of drama serial Meri Zindagi Hai. Yes, we have the transcripts of its 14th to 17th installments which explain the journey of Kamran and Ira till their marriage. And these are very important accidents. Of course, but we won’t just repeat the story, we’ll explore the questions behind it. The purpose of our research today is to understand how real is the change seen in Kamran’s personality and how much is pretense, yes, what internal and external pressures did those characters have to face and how strong is the foundation of this claim of love, so let us unravel all this and this question is very important because in these Aadat, the story goes beyond just love and reaches the test of trust, forgiveness and human weaknesses. Correct. This is a critical juncture where a small mistake can ruin everything. So it starts with a bang. Kamran, who has just become serious in business, suddenly announces to his parents that he wants to marry Ira. Yes. This was a shock for him. Especially for his mother. Who felt that he was becoming responsible for the first time in his life. His first refusal was a clear refusal. The most interesting thing here is Kamran’s style. Yes, he doesn’t make demands like a spoiled rich boy. He does not do so but asks for his consent like a wise person. He says I will not do anything against your and Ira’s parents’ wishes. This is a very intelligent practical wisdom. That means he puts the burden of decision making on his parents. Absolutely. And presents himself as an obedient son. And this practical wisdom also worked. Later when his parents themselves do not even talk properly to each other. Yes. When they sit down to discuss this topic, they are unable to ignore its strong changes. His father says that he is taking care of the business. Does not talk loudly. Takes care of everyone. Yes. And they come to the conclusion that Ira is the root cause of all this change. Is this change in their debate any less? We are not just asking a question but also expressing our objection. He believes that the boy whom he could not change has been changed by a girl. Correct. At this very point, he softens towards this relationship. Because he actually does not want to lose this new and better personality of his son. But every positive change definitely affects someone or the other in a negative way. Absolutely. This decision of Kamran created a storm in two more lives. Khawar and Faria. First let’s talk about Khabar whose proposal came for Ira. Which was apparently a great choice. Muqeem Mustahkam ji in America. But Ira’s father, Dr. Irfan, has been feeling a bit uneasy from the very beginning. The character of Dr. Irfan appears here as a modern father. He gives more importance to his daughter’s mental happiness than financial security. When they ask for advice, they are told something very profound. A little pain is better than a lifetime of regret. Absolutely. This sentence becomes the basis of his decision. They prefer an uncertain but peaceful future over a secure but uneasy one. And on the other side is Faria. Yes. Whose pain is very deep and intense. She was sure that she would marry Kamran only. When he comes to know the truth, his anger is not just anger but an existential crisis. Yes. She cries and tells her father that Kamran is marrying someone else. He dismissed me. Everyone dismisses me. The meaning of all this points towards the wounds of his past. Absolutely. In the story, these two characters Khawar and Faria are not just mad lovers. Not there. They act as foil characters for Kamran and Ayra. Khawar is the opposite of Kamran. Strong on the surface but hollow and dishonest from within. And Faria and Faria emerge as the biggest dog to challenge the strength of Ayra’s love. This tension is clearly visible to us in the restaurant scene. When Khawar and Kamran come face to face. Yes. Khawar’s attitude is extremely eccentric. He calls Kamran a loser. He pushes him. Kamran first confiscates it on Ayra’s request. But for how long? When Khawar speaks ill about Ayra, Kamran loses control and slaps him. Yes, and whatever he says, this girl is my life and I cannot hear anything against her. This shows the intensity of his feelings. It does, but a question also arises here. Is this really heroism or a glimpse of his past? Meaning? Meaning he is resorting to violence, which is a sign of his old Kamaran. On one hand he is defending Ira, but on the other hand he is displaying the same attitude which he claims to have left behind. This is a huge rebuke. Correct. That is to say that I have improved a lot. But to talk to boys like you, I have to come down to your level. This reveals his inner conflict. That he is still caught between the old Jibillat and the new personality. Absolutely. And after this sentence, Khabar’s mother’s rejection of the act also becomes very severe. She accuses Ira’s family of using her as a proxy. But Faria’s case is more complicated. Yes, when she meets Kamran again, Kamran’s response reveals his strength. This is an important moment. He doesn’t give Faria any false consolation. Does n’t give. He clearly says that love does not happen for any reason. It has n’t happened to you. It is from Ayra. He establishes a clear limit. He also says that even if Ayra never liked him, he would have waited for her all his life but would not have troubled her. It reveals the depth of his character that he does not consider love as a property. So Kamran’s journey of transformation continues. But his maazi is following him like a ghost. Absolutely. An unknown woman at the jewellery shop tells Ayra that Kamran is not a marrying boy. Not just a dialogue. Rather, it is the collective voice of Kamran’s past that reaches Ayra’s ears. And Ira’s rejection of the action is also worth noting. She is scared but she does not run away. She repeatedly questions Kamran. And Kamran doesn’t deny it here either. He accepts his mistakes and says you have changed me. We promise that the coming day will be better than the previous day. It is very beautiful. But it is also a huge burden. That he is promising to prove himself every day. Yes. But the biggest test of this promise and his transformation comes when Faria invites him to a party. Yes. He goes alone and gets drunk after falling into old company and reaches Ayra’s house at midnight. This moment is the biggest highlight of the story. This incident exposes the delicacy of Kamran’s transformation. His new personality is based on his love for Bairuni Muhrik, i.e. Ayra. Not on inner resolve. Correct. When that Muhrik i.e. Ayra is not present and the old environment returns, he immediately becomes a victim of his old weakness. This is not just a mistake but a testament to the fundamental flaws in his character. This clearly shows how weak the foundation for its transformation still is. It was a very heavy moment. Let us pause here and talk about the character of Dr. Irrfan. How difficult would it be for a father to handle this situation? Very difficult. He could have gotten angry, could have broken the relationship. But the patience and understanding he displayed was extraordinary. Absolutely. Dr. Irfan handles this situation with great caution. He does not say anything to Kamran in his condition. We leave him home with respect. And in the car, Kamran, in his drunken state, repeatedly says that I have changed only for Ayra. This is a shocking truth. He himself knows that the reason for his transformation is not him but Ira. The next day when Kamran regains consciousness, he does not remember anything. Ayra is very angry. When Kamran goes to apologize to Dr. Irfan, he admits his mistake. But at the same time, he also appears to be a victim of Faria’s conspiracy. Yes. Here Faria’s character comes across as a cunning schemer. She misleads Kamran by saying that he himself was insisting on going to Ayra’s house. while she was taking him to an after party. Correct. This shows that she is no longer just acting emotionally but is acting with calculations out of jealousy. And Doctor Irfan saying this to Kamran, I do n’t feel like believing what you say. This is the sound of the trust built on Kamran breaking. He saves the relationship only and only for the happiness of his daughter. This story is not just about a couple but also about the journey of two families. Yes of course. On one side is Kamran’s family who completely accepts Ayra. Her mother says that the peace that is returning to our home is because of Ira. This is a big thing. And Dadi giving her wedding dress to Ira is not just a ritual. Not there. It is a sign of handing over responsibility from one generation to another. Yes. This is Ayra’s complete confession and when grandmother reveals the secret of Kamran’s childhood. Oh yes, that moment when grandmother revealed the secret of Kamran’s childhood, for the first time I felt sympathy for Kamran’s character. Correct. Before this he seemed like just a spoiled rich boy. But this one moment gave a new dimension to his entire character. We know that he was deprived of proper upbringing due to the quarrels between his parents. Its rebellious attitude may not make any sound but it definitely explains it. Absolutely. This is the most important revelation of the story. Grandma requests Ira not to let it change again. In this one sentence, there is both a request and a warning. We know that Kamran’s foundation is weak and he needs constant support. And in contrast to that is the attitude of Ayra’s mother. Who after that intoxicating sentence becomes a victim of Majid Shakuko Shubhahat. She advises Ayra to reconsider her decision, which is a natural act of a mother. And standing between these two families are Ayra and Dr. Irfan. Ira stands by her decision which shows the intensity of her love. Yes. But Dr. Irfan’s dilemma is the deepest. He wants his daughter’s happiness and is also worried about her future. His warning to us Kamran: If my daughter gets hurt because of you, I will not care about the fact that she is your wife. This is an expression of both a father’s love and his fear. So the revelation of these habits is that this journey till marriage is not a bed of roses. no way. It is a difficult test where Kamran’s efforts to change himself are constantly threatened by his past, his own weaknesses and the conspiracies of others. So the central dilemma now is not whether he will marry or not. No. Rather, the question is whether Kamran’s transformation is strong enough to face these challenges. And the party incident reveals a very dangerous truth about how easily he could fall back into his old ways. Absolutely. So here we go with a question. It all ends together just before the wedding ceremony. Ji Faria and Khabar are now conspiring together and Kamran’s weakness has also been exposed to everyone. So the question isn’t whether Kamran can defeat Faria and Khabar? So what is the real question? The real question is, can love fundamentally change a person or is it just a temporary balm that temporarily covers up old wounds? Kamran’s future life will be the answer to this question. Cheers in The Debate. Today we are talking about a very interesting aspect of human psychology. Changes that happen in the name of love. Before us is the character of Kamyar. A person who was earlier known for his carelessness and indifference. But Ayra’s love apparently transformed him into a responsible and strong person. Everything was going well. Even just three days before the wedding, an incident occurred which put a question mark on this entire change. So the central question of today’s discussion is whether this transformation of Kamyar has become a real and integral part of his personality or was it just a superficial show which has already crumbled under pressure. Of course, I would advocate the view that Kamyar’s transformation is a proof of his true love and the recent incident was more the result of an external conspiracy than his personal failure. And I would argue, on the contrary, that this incident is clear evidence that his transformation is not deeply rooted. This is a change that depends on external influences and as soon as that influence is in danger, his old irresponsible personality immediately returns. Look, I consider this change to be real because its effects were not limited to his attitude but were visible on his entire life. He started handling his father’s business seriously, which he never did before. His relations with his family, especially his father Sohail, improved. These are the people who have seen him all his life and they themselves are witnesses to the fact that Ira has changed him. We think this is fine. And the biggest testimony comes from Ira’s father, Dr. Irfan. He is a wise and experienced person. and was initially strongly against Kamyar. She left an apparently safe relationship like Khawar and accepted Kamyar only because she herself felt a strong and real change in him. This is not a simple matter. Now as far as this party statement is concerned, we should not ignore its significance. This was no ordinary party. This was arranged by Faria. A woman who considered Kamiyar’s refusal an insult to her. It was a trap. Kamyar fell into this trap. But there was no fault in his intentions. The biggest proof of this is that even in his drunken state, the only thing on his mind was to go to Ira. This shows the intensity of his love. And when he regained consciousness, he immediately went and apologized to Dr. Irfan, which is a sign of his embarrassment and acceptance of his mistake. The Nikat you mentioned apparently seems very strong. But I think you are ignoring the underlying psychology behind them. The basic personality of any person, which is formed through years of behavior and habits, does not completely change in a few months. What you are calling real change, I see it as a perfect example of extrinsic motivation. Kamyar’s desire to be good, to be responsible, is all tied to Ayra’s approval and to gain it. Ayra is the centre of his transformation. As soon as he faced pressure from friends before marriage and was able to move away from this external influence for a while, his old default behaviour, i.e. his natural attitude, returned. But Ira’s sister’s letter was absolutely correct that the biggest weakness of people who change is that they change again and again and this sentence proved this letter to be true. Not only did he commit an irresponsible act, but what he did after that was even more serious. He lied to Ayra and made an excuse of illness. This action indicates that honesty has no importance in the foundation of relationships. This wasn’t just a mistake. This is a manifestation of the fundamental weakness of his character. But can’t love itself become the symbol of a huge inner change? You are limiting it by calling it just external promotion. I see it as a true Irtqa. When he dismissed Ayra in front of his parents or when he himself went to Dr. Irfan and tried to convince him, it was not just an attempt to get Ayra. This was an expression of his determination that he was ready to fight for this relationship and change himself. The biggest proof of his strength is the incident at the jewellery shop. When a stranger taunted Ayra about her past, Kamyar not only consoled her but also stood there and admitted his mistakes. He said, I have done many wrong things in the past. Those wrong deeds never seemed wrong. Ever since you came into my life, I have become a different person. These words cannot be of someone who is just pretending. This is the voice of a person who is going through the process of self-realization. I understand your point but there is a difference between self-awareness and emotional non-confidence. Kamyar’s attitude reflects a sense of obsession and possessiveness more than love. He sees Ira as a trophy he has to win. You talk about the jewellery shop sentence. But what about the incident in the restaurant when he slapped Khawar in front of everyone, that was a different situation, Ayra wanted to handle the situation there with Waqar but Kamyar displayed his ignorance by creating a public spectacle, his saying that this girl is my life and I cannot hear anything against her, this is not the statement of a balanced and strong person. This is the attitude of a person who has no control over his emotions, which we call low emotional regulation. This change of his name to Nihad lasts only as long as the situation is under his control. As soon as a challenge comes, whether it is in the form of a khavaar or pressure from friends, his true nature comes to the fore. Had insulted Ira. He was pushed. In such a situation, Kamyar’s rejection of the action was understandable. But let us come back to the real topic which is the party incident. You are emphasizing his caste failure. But can we ignore the characters of Faria and Khabar so easily? Both these characters wanted to take revenge from Kamyar. Faria deliberately created such a situation where pressure could be put on Kamyar. This was a well-planned conspiracy. Okay, I assume there was a conspiracy. Kamyar fell victim to this conspiracy but his intention was not to deceive or hurt Ayra. If that were the case, he would n’t have insisted on going to Ayra’s house even when he was drunk. Even unconsciously, he was drawn towards that which was the centre of his new identity. Her breaking down in front of Dr. Irfan, her pleading with him, all this is proof of her deep remorse. Can a person who is just pretending feel so much real embarrassment? This is an interesting point. But does being a victim of a conspiracy absolve someone of personal responsibility? Let’s say this was a 100% conspiracy. There was a trap. A strong and responsible person recognizes this trap from a distance or refuses to fall into it. He had the right to refuse. He could have refused to go to the party. He could have refused to drink alcohol. But he did not do so. Why? Because under pressure his decision making power weakened and he chose the easy way out. Which is typical of his old personality. We’re here, let me ask you a question. What is the true identity of a changed person? That he apologizes after making a mistake or that he has the ability to make the right decision the first time. Kamyar failed miserably in this test of decision making, proving that its transformation was not yet complete. And as far as Dr. Irfan’s apology is concerned, he has not forgiven him. He suppressed the matter only for the happiness of his daughter. His words were very eloquent. I have not mentioned this to anyone at home. Just because Ira respects you a lot. This will cause a lot of pain. This was not a restoration of trust. This was a father’s compulsion. The doubt in his own eyes was the biggest proof that Kamyar was untrustworthy. I admit that he has made a very big and serious mistake. His decision was wrong. But is n’t there room for error in human nature? Especially for a person who has been accustomed to a different way of life for a long time. Change is not a straight path. There are ups and downs in it. The important thing is whether that person learns from his mistake or not? I think this incident could prove to be a wake-up call for Kamyar. The fear of losing Ayra will make him more dependent and responsible in the future. He himself asked Ira, what will you do if I become like before? It reveals his inner conflict. He is aware of his weaknesses and is striving to overcome them. This question is an acknowledgement of his fear and desire to improve himself. This is a sign that he is not taking his transformation lightly. It would be unfair to cancel it completely on the basis of one mistake. She is saying this internal conflict. I consider that a huge red flag. This question of his is actually an expression of his own fear of the dead body that he himself does not believe in his transformation. He wants this reassurance from Ayra in advance that what will happen if he fails ? He is also putting the burden of responsibility on Ayra. Now we come to the details of his future. Ayra is about to marry a man who, just days before the wedding, has proven that he cannot be trusted in difficult times. This is a very strict thing. He not only committed an irresponsible act but also lied to his future wife afterward. A relationship whose foundation is being laid on lies and deceit before marriage. How strong can it be? This is a huge gamble that Ayra is taking. She is connecting her life with a person who is likely to change again and again and the emotional and mental responsibility of setting him back every time will probably fall on Ayra. This is the beginning of an unequal and potentially very painful relationship. So the truth is that according to me, Kamyar’s transformation is incomplete and has flaws. But this is true. It is based on his deep and true love for Ira. His recent mistake was a terrible one. But this does not reveal his entire personality. This was the re-emergence of an old habit and not the end of its new identity. He should be given a chance to learn from his mistakes and become a better person because he has proven in the past that he has both the ability and the desire to change. And my position is that Kamyar’s recent behavior is a serious threat that cannot be ignored. Words and intentions have their place, but the real test of character is in action, especially under pressure. She proves that her transformation is unreliable, and her reversion to old habits reveals that Ira is risking an untenable and potentially painful future. Love can definitely be the reason for someone to change. But this is by no means a guarantee that the change will remain permanent. Bilashuba Kamyar’s character is not so simple that it can be divided into black and white. Her personality combines true love and deep vulnerability, making her a complex and interesting character. Absolutely, and that is why this pus provides us with the scope for such deep and varied interpretations. Only the audience can decide how they view the character of Kamyar in the light of these arguments and what opinion they form about his future. Today we are talking about the story of Kamran and Ira. This is a love story caught between the mistakes of the past and the promises of the future. Absolutely, and especially the character of Kamran, on whose transformation the entire story is based. Yes, and I think we should start our conversation from there. Ok. The journey of transformation of Kamran’s character feels a little stale because we don’t see his inner conflict anywhere. Good. The issue is that the script repeatedly tells us that Kamran has changed. He is responsible now. Taking care of the business. Takes care of Ira. But these are all things, right? Isn’t it? We are not being shown. Absolutely. We get all this through other characters or simply in the form of statements. We are never shown how Kamran is fighting that battle within himself. This is a very common issue in writing called telling, not showing. Writers often focus so much on moving the plot forward that they forget to dramatize the character’s inner journey. Correct. This is probably what happened here too. They are showing us the results. A changed Kamran but the execution to reach this conclusion is missing. Absolutely. And that’s why when he goes to Faria’s party and drinks again, that moment doesn’t turn out to be an alarming failure. Rather, it seems like a turning point. Yes, a very dramatic turn. The spectators are not surprised because they would never have believed in its transformation in real terms. And this weakens the very foundation of the story on which Ira’s family is relying. Yes. So what can be done to make it stronger ? My suggestion is that his inner conflict should be shown before this drunken sentence. Yes, it should be shown before that. What could be some concrete examples of this, not just in words? For example, a brief scene could have been included in the week of Faria’s party. What kind of scene? Imagine that an old friend of Kamran calls him and says that the old gathering is coming together. Where are you? And Kamran hesitates for a moment. He remembers those days. Good. But then he smiles and says, no friend, now my preferences have changed. It would have been a small scene, but it would have made the change more than a verbal claim, but a real election. I would like to add one more thing to this. What if he not only refuses but also feels a little uneasy after refusing. Interesting. Maybe he should turn off his phone and look at Ira’s picture and remind himself why he has chosen this path. Yes. This inner conflict shows that old habits still pull at us. But he is deliberately choosing a better path. That would have made the party scene a thousand times more powerful. Absolutely because then we would know that he had not just slipped but had lost a real battle. Correct. And when the internal transformation of the character is not strong, then the external events of the story also start repeating themselves. You are talking about this cycle of Tasaduum which is repeated again and again. Yes. The repeated cycle of retaliation and forgiveness in the story destroys the pace and tension of the narration. There is a pattern to this. Isn’t it? Yes, there is a specific pattern. Kamran makes a mistake like fighting with Khawar or getting drunk. And then Ira’s father, Dr. Irfan Shahid, gets worried. Absolutely. Kamran then apologizes profusely, makes promises, and with Ira’s support, the matter is resolved in time, with each new crisis having a lesser impact. Yes, this is very dangerous for the narrator. Every time the story resets itself after a crisis, it lowers the stakes. And Nazreen begins to realize that any mistake Kamran makes will not have any definite consequences. In the end he will be forgiven. So to break this conflict, it is necessary that the results of Kamran’s actions should be different and should last longer. Mere apologies will not suffice. This won’t work. Any mistake of its should have such concrete consequences that it cannot be corrected by mere words. So what would be your suggestion? For example, when he arrives at Ayra’s house drunk. How could that sentence be made different? See, in that scene, Dr. Irfan only expresses his inner pain and later forgives Kamran. Yes. Instead, if he had taken a concrete step, the course of the story could have changed. For example, imagine him saying to Kamran, I no longer trust your promises. The wedding is being postponed for a month. Oh, that would have been a huge step. And Majid says, in these 30 days I want to see not just your words but your changed attitude. This is a great start. This one decision raises the stakes dramatically. Now Kamran has to not only apologize but also prove himself practically. But we can make it even more interesting. What if this decision to postpone the wedding creates a rift between Dr. Irfan and Ira. Good. Ira might say to her father, you did not trust me. You did not trust us. Wow, that would be amazing. This will not only increase the pressure on Kamran but will also put Ira in a difficult position. Correct. Now she not only has to take care of Kamran but also save her relationship with her family. And this will turn a simple mistake apology into a complicated family drama. Many new layers will definitely be added to the story. Absolutely. And putting Ayra in this difficult situation could actually be a huge opportunity for her character. How? Because so far she has remained mostly a silent spectacle in the story, which is the focus of our third and final point. The lack of acting skills in Ira’s character makes her a useless character despite being the centre of the story. That means he is the harbinger of Kamran’s transformation. Yes, it is Mohrik. But she herself does n’t move the story forward. She only expresses her disapproval of the statement. On Kamran’s attitude, on his parents’ decisions and on Faria’s moves. We see Shajo Nadir himself making a decision that changes the course of the story. Isn’t it ? Absolutely. And it’s very interesting because the story is apparently about that. But his character is mostly used to enhance Kamran’s character. Right now Ayra is a reactive character. She waits for things to happen and then responds. Whereas it should be proactive. Yes. A proactive character is one who makes things happen. Whether its results are good or bad. So, to make this more empowering, the suggestion is to give Ira the opportunity to take an important decision that is free from the influence of others. He has to take control of the story. Yes. For example, when Kamran is at a party and does not pick up the phone, Ira gets upset and goes to his house. This is a rejected action. Yes. How could this have been made proactive? One possibility could have been that he would not just sit there worried. She would call one of Kamran’s friends or look on social media and find out about Faria’s party. Good. Then she would decide to go there. Knowing that going there is like inviting a tassadam. This is a small difference. But now she is not a victim of circumstances but is taking an informed decision. This is better. But I have a more dramatic idea in mind. What is that ? Imagine if Ayra, disappointed by Kamran’s actions and fed up with her father’s attitude, goes to meet Faria herself the next day. Wow. This would be a highly irresponsible and dangerous step. Yes, she is not going to acquire information but she is going to do Tasadu. And what will she say to Faria? She can tell Faria that whatever you do, I will not leave Kamran. This will change the entire map of the story. Just from this one scene, we can see Ira’s courage, her weakness and the depth of her love all together. This will establish her as a strong woman fighting for her destiny rather than just a girl needing to be rescued and will show that she is not just in love with Kamran but is also willing to take risks to save that relationship. And no one knows where the story will go after this. Will Faria reveal something that will shake Ayra? Or will this meeting create further misunderstandings between Kamran and Ayra? This is the sign of a good story when the character’s decisions give the story a unique and interesting twist. Giving this power to Ayra can take this drama to new heights. So the conclusion of today’s conversation is that this story has a lot of potential. But it needs some changes. Yes. First, the transformation of Kamran’s character should be made deeper and more believable not just through narration but by showing his inner conflict and real decisions. Secondly, the cycle of Tasaadum Aafi which is repeated again and again in the story should be broken. Such deep and complex consequences of Kamran’s mistakes should be presented which take the story forward. And thirdly, and perhaps most importantly, Ayra should be made a Fal and Bakhtiar character. She should be given the opportunity to make decisions that take the story in new and unprecedented directions so that she can become the true heroine of her story instead of just a motley crew. Absolutely. After working on these tips, when your pus takes a new shape, please share it with us again. We’ll be excited to see how this story unfolds.

Episode 16

So let’s talk today about Maqbool drama serial Meri Zindagi Hai To and understand its drama and very complicated love story. The story does n’t begin with a romantic moment, but with a bitter and heated argument that lays the foundation for a very turbulent relationship. So the story begins with Ayra who is caught in a strange dilemma. His family members put two completely different paths before him. On one side is Khabar, which Ayra’s parents have chosen for her safe future. And on the other side is Kamyar who has chosen Ayra himself. Now, whether Ayra likes it or not, Kaumayar’s early work is not romantic at all, in fact, to be honest, it completely lives up to the praise of Harasani. He continuously follows Ayra. He creates problems in her university exams and also threatens her by creating a scene in front of her family. But then just when it seems that Ayra is about to lose courage. There is a conversation that changes everything. While abusing Kamyar, Ayra suddenly says something which she herself was not expecting. She admits that she has developed feelings for Kamyar. Obviously both of them are surprised to hear this. And for Kamyar, it was like a signal. He considers this recognition as his victory and immediately goes from being a passionate lover to offering to become her fiancé. Well, now that both of them have expressed their feelings, the biggest challenge before them is how to convince everyone who hates Kamyar that he has really changed. So Kamyar makes a complete plan to convince Era’s father and this time his method is completely different. Instead of threats and anger, he resorts to aajiji and promises. And here you see how big a change comes in its style. He is no longer showing his strength but is appealing for mercy as a changed man. Now the question is about Ayra’s father who has seen Kamyar’s worst behavior with his own eyes. Will he agree so easily? They have every reason to refuse. But surprisingly, his father decides that Kamyar’s love and efforts are true and he should definitely get a chance. This is a huge turning point in the story. And the interesting thing is that Kamyar not only convinces Ayra’s family but his own family also starts supporting his decision after seeing the positive changes in her. So understand that he wins this battle on both sides. But convincing the families was only half the battle. The real issue was about to begin when he had to deal with his past. And then three such characters appear in the story who become a big threat to their happiness. When he encounters Khawar, it leads to a scuffle. He not only pushes Kamyar but also insults Ira. On which Kamiar slaps him. Meanwhile, Faria, who was previously just a sad friend, now becomes an open threat and swears that she will not allow this marriage to happen at any cost. And then, in front of everyone, a woman from Kamyar’s past comes and warns Ayra and sows the seed of doubt in her heart whether a person like Kamyar can ever really change. So now let’s see how all these issues together bring the story to a very crucial point. Especially when the wedding day is also approaching. So now after the consent of the families, the wedding preparations start in full swing. The families meet, the exchange of gifts takes place and it seems as if everything is finally going to be alright. But then everything changes in just one night and the reason for this is a party hosted by Faria which Kamyar accepts. Just imagine, Ira’s father opens the door and his would-be son-in-law is standing in front of him, drunk. The man who worked so hard to prove himself responsible suddenly appears to be the same old carefree self that everyone feared. The confidence he had built with so much difficulty is shattered in a single night due to a single mistake. And this is where the big question arises that when the foundation of a relationship is so stormy, can it ever reach a peaceful destination or a love that starts easily and is surrounded by enemies on all sides, its end is written as failure from the very beginning. So the story we have today is of Ayra and Kamyar and to be honest, there is not even a moment of peace in it. The story we see before us tells the tale of a love filled with impossible oppositions, forgiveness, and then new, more dangerous plots. Absolutely. Today we will not only see what happened in the story but will also try to understand why all this happened. Our aim is to take a deep look at the psychological ups and downs of this relationship. We’ll see how fragile one man’s attempt to change himself is and how the shadows of the maji and new enemies rise to thwart this attempt. Well then let’s start from the beginning. The story begins at Ira’s house where the atmosphere is quite tense. Her mother is trying to convince her to marry a boy named Khabar who has come from America. But Ira is not ready at all. She clearly tells her mother that how can I decide once I meet him that he is my life partner. And this is where we get the first sura of the central dilemma of the story. On one side there is maternal and family pressure. Meaning a good, apparently perfect relationship and on the other hand, there is Ira’s own caste who is not able to accept this decision but the real storm is yet to come and his name is Kamyar, yes Kamyar, in the beginning he appears like a villain. He is chasing Ira. He is harassing her and Ira feels that because of him her university exam has also been spoiled. She hates him intensely. But here comes a very interesting twist. When Ira learns that her paper issue has been resolved, she becomes suspicious. He feels that Kamyar is behind this. She goes to meet him. But instead of thanking him for his help, she got angry at him for interfering in her life. And in this confrontation the entire direction of the story changes. Ira yells at him. But Kamyar does not get angry in response. He admits his mistakes. He says I am not a bad person. I have made a mistake. It’s a small phrase , but it’s the first time we see softness in her character, rather than stubbornness. From here its redemption arc i.e. the journey of improving itself begins. He confesses his love and the most surprising thing is that despite being angry, Ayra also accepts that she has started liking him. She herself is surprised why she liked a boy like this. This is a sign that she is sensing a change in his intentions more than his words. Immediately after this exchange, Kamyar proposes marriage, which seems quite hasty, but the real obstacle arises now. The family, especially Ira’s father, strongly dislikes Kamyar. We have been told that in the past, Kamyar had come to his house and created a scene and misbehaved with him. And this is Kamyar’s first real test. The old Kamyar would probably have insisted, fought, or tried to take Ayra away. But the changed Kamyar adopts a completely different practical strategy. He goes to Ayra’s father’s house. Tries to talk respectfully. And when it is abolished. When Ayra’s father says I don’t want to talk to you, he goes back silently. But is this enough? Just keep quiet. On the other hand, his own family is also against this relationship. No, this is not enough. But this is evidence of change. Even his family accepts his seriousness only when they see him acting and not just talking. They see him taking care of the business, becoming responsible. He understands that this change has come because of Ira and hence he agrees to the relationship. He considers her love as a means of his reform. And then comes the biggest moment of the story, which is a turning point not only in the story but also in the character of Walid. Ayra’s father, who was the biggest opponent of this relationship, finally agrees. He says the person who can change himself so much for my daughter should get a chance. This is a very deep thing. Initially he stood by his dignity and principles. But here he is admitting that his daughter’s happiness is more important than his own desires. This is a classic solution to the dilemma of parents and children where love prevails over principles. This one decision has transformed him from a villain to a sympathetic and understanding character. So it seems that the biggest battle has been won. The family agreed. The stories should have ended. Isn’t it ? This is often the case in stories. But here, as soon as the internal war ends, external enemies enter the field. And those enemies come in two forms. A restless lover Khawar and a passionate friend Faria. Yes, in Khawar ‘s case, Ayra and Kamiar go to apologize to him, which is a good thing. But the situation worsens there. Khawar insults both of them and pushes Kamyar away, calling him a loser. And in response to Kamyar’s refusal, he slaps him in front of everyone. So is n’t this proof that he has n’t changed at all? He is still the same angry and violent boy. All that hard work went to waste. This is a very interesting point. Apparently it seems so. But I look at it a little differently. Earlier his anger was due to his own stubbornness. But this time his anger was in defense of Ayra’s honor. The intention has changed. Even though the method is the same old one. This shows that change is not a straight line. There are ups and downs in this. He is still learning and his old temper is his biggest weakness. And to take advantage of this weakness, Faria comes into the field. She is in one-sided love with Kamyar and is not ready to accept that relationship. Kamyar explains to him very clearly that he loves Ayra. But she cannot tolerate refusal. And this is where the game starts. Faria alone might not have been able to do anything but now she contacts Khauber who is already feeling insulted. Both of them together form a team. This is a very dangerous imtiaz. One is heartbroken and the other is Ana, both want revenge. His intention is not just to break the marriage but also to create doubt in Ayra’s heart. And we see its first attempt at a jewellery shop. When an unknown woman tells Ayra that Kamyar is not a marrying boy. This is a very well thought out psychological move. This is definitely not a deliberate attack. This is an attempt to sow seeds of doubt. Because he knows that the foundation of this relationship is on Kamyar’s transformation. And if that change itself becomes suspicious then the relationship will automatically become weak. But Kamyar counters that attack beautifully. Yes, that thing he said was very poetic. When Ayra is upset, he consoles her instead of getting angry. He accepts his past but promises his future. He says if I can get stars, I will make a necklace out of them and put it around your neck. He assures her that his condition and future are only for Ira. This word is important. This shows that he is now learning to express his feelings not through force but through words and love. He considers Ira’s trust as his biggest strength. The wedding preparations begin. Kamyar’s family comes to Ayra’s house with a royal wedding dress. This is a very beautiful and traditional moment. Kamyar ‘s grandmother tells Ira that the couple is related through generations. This is not just a dress, it is a sign that Ira has now been completely accepted by the family. And this acceptance gives a new strength to this relationship. Now this is not just a relationship between two people but a union of two families. Everything seems perfect in this moment. But the story tells us that just when everything seems fine , the biggest storm comes. And she brings Hurricane Faria. She invites Kamyar to a party of old friends. She emotionally blackmails him that if you come then everyone’s mouth will be shut that there is any fight between us. This is a very cleverly laid trap. Yes, she takes advantage of his goodness. Kamyar goes to prove that there is no bad feeling in his heart and that he has really changed. But there something is mixed in his drink. We are specifically shown him drinking a soft drink. Which means he was taking precautions himself. But the conspiracy was deeper than that. And then comes the most shocking moment of the story. Kamyar reaches Ayra’s house late at night in an inebriated state. He is not in his senses. He is saying strange things. The door is opened by none other than Ira’s father. Just imagine the companion of this scene. The same father who, after months of hesitation, trusted that boy for the happiness of his daughter. Now he sees her in the same condition he always feared. The old irresponsible Kamyar is standing at his door. I was thinking that now everything is over. Father will immediately refuse the marriage and perhaps he will do the right thing. No father will tolerate this. And this is the most unusual and profound twist in this story. Instead of getting angry or making a scene, he acts as if he is incompetent. He quietly makes Kamyar sit in his car. He goes to drop her home and makes an excuse to the family that there is an emergency in the hospital so that Ayra does not even get a whiff of this sentence. One minute. I did not understand one thing here. Does n’t this seem a bit unrealistic? Meaning, how did Ayra ‘s father take Kamiar inside the house so easily and no one even came to know about it. See, more than being a reality show, this is a dramatic drama to show the depth of his character. The writer wants to show us that this man can go to any extent to save the honour and happiness of his daughter. He is even ready to save the honour of his would-be son-in-law, whom he himself is extremely angry with. So you are saying that he was not saving Kamyar but his daughter’s happiness. His point of view has definitely changed. He is no longer just saving Ayra from Kamyar. He is now saving the relationship on which his daughter’s happiness depends. He has emerged as the biggest and wisest protector of this situation. Instead of immediately cancelling the action, he has decided to wait until he knows the truth. This is the extent of the strength of his character. Whereas on the other hand, Ayra is unaware of all these things. She is just worried about why Kamyar is not picking up her calls. He feels like maybe she’s angry. Whereas the real story is something else. And this is the dramatic oppression. The audience and Ayra’s father know everything. But the central characters of the story, Ira and Kamyar, are both in the dark. Ayra is upset and when Kamyar wakes up in the morning he will remember nothing but embarrassment. Amidst the wedding preparations, there is this silent storm that can destroy everything. So these incidents leave us at a point where we are unsure everywhere. One apparent mistake by Kamyar one night can ruin his months of hard work. He had won the trust of Ayra’s father with great difficulty. And now it’s all at stake. Yes, but the real question of the story is no longer whether the marriage will happen or not? The real question is about the intention of trust. Kamyar had earned confidence after months of practice. Now, this is an act which he did not even perform in a Sharia manner. It has the power to destroy this entire trust. His real test will begin now when he will have to prove his innocence. Maybe even to yourself. And this leaves us with a very interesting thought. What carries more weight in any relationship? A deliberate attempt over months or years to create a new you, or a devastating picture of the failure of the past. Even if that picture is fake. There should be a conspiracy. Now Kamyar and Ayra have to find the answer to this question. Well, the story we have today revolves around Ayra and Kamran. Yes, after a very bitter start, Kamran tries to win the hearts of Ira and her family. Absolutely. So let’s talk a little about his strictness. So the most important aspect of the story, that is, its essence, is the transformation of Kamran’s character. Yes. But the way this change has been shown, it becomes a little difficult for us to believe it. So hard he suddenly goes from being a Zarehana stalker to an exemplary companion. Yes, it is so spicy that it cannot be digested. Yes, and what is the reason given for this entire change ? A slap from Ira. Correct. This is a very old formula of our dramas, not that there is a shock and the villain becomes the hero. Yes. But does this formula work in today’s times ? Especially when the character’s attitude is not just bad but also goes to the extent of being criminal. You have raised absolutely the right point. This is not just a change of attitude, it is a change of the entire personality. And the story tells us that he has changed but it does not show how this change has come from within. That’s why we don’t see his inner conflict, his stubbornness, nothing like that. It seems as if someone just flicked a switch and a new version of Kamran emerged. Yes, psychologically this is a very weak foundation. So how can this change be made a reality ? Let’s assume that the slap disturbed him, but what after that? See, change does not come in a moment. It is a journey. And this journey needs to be shown. Absolutely. This has to be shown as an implementation. We need to see the scene where he is fighting his old habits. For example, suppose Kamran is driving a car and someone overtakes him in a wrong manner. What would old Kamran do? Perhaps he would come out of his beard and start fighting. Obviously, but the new changed Kamran also pumps his fists in anger. He takes a deep breath and lets it go. Oh this is very interesting. Meaning a small scene but it shows his inner battle more powerfully than words. Yes, his character should be put to such a test where it would be easier for him to go back to the old path. But he chose a new path. Maybe one of his old friends will provoke him and say that you were not like this. Let’s teach this boy a lesson. And Kamran refuses. Yes. This will be proof that he is changing not just for Ira but for himself. You are right. And even deeper than that, they may feel genuine remorse for their past. Just apologizing to Ira is not enough. So you are saying that its scope should be expanded. Yes. What if he goes and apologizes to the university guard or finds someone he harassed in the past and reconciles. These actions will make his transformation more than mere words, but a concrete reality. And there must be some consequences of that change. If your past has been so bad then people do not believe it so easily. It is possible that because of his attitude, some of his father ‘s business ventures may be in danger or his reputation in the neighborhood may be so tarnished that he may have to face difficulties in real life. When he pays the price for his mistakes, then the audience will believe in his change and this brings us to the second big issue of the story that the story itself is confused about its style. What this means is that the story begins with a serious issue. Hirasani, chasing. But then suddenly it turns into a light romantic story. Yes. This fresh style confuses the viewers. Kamran’s initial actions, i.e. threatening Ira, following her everywhere , are very serious. But the story presents him as a romantic obstacle. As if it was a prank , not a dangerous attitude. Absolutely. This reduces the companionship of his character. This is a very common trap, especially in stories about reforming the bad boy. But there is a difference between a bad boy and a criminal minded person. Here the story crosses that line and then acts as if nothing happened. And this may unintentionally send the message that such an attitude is acceptable if the boy apologizes later. Absolutely. So here the Musanif has two Waz paths. Ok? The first way is that they take the issue of harassment very seriously. If the story continues on this path, we will have to show its psychological effects on Ayra. That means even when Kamran changes, his fear still remains somewhere in Ayra’s heart. Yes. If he suddenly appears in front of her, she may get scared or if he talks loudly, she may get frightened. Her love story will involve the inner struggle of whether she can truly trust the man who scared her so much. This would give the story a lot more depth. And being a realist, Ayra’s character will also be strengthened. His forgiving Kamran will become a very big and significant decision. Not a result by itself. Absolutely. We can see her friends talking to her, that you can really trust her. This tension will keep the story interesting till the end. Ok. This is one way. And what is the other way? The other way is that if the aim is to make a light romantic story, then the intensity of Kamran’s initial attitude should be reduced. He should be portrayed as a stubborn and strong person , not as a dangerous stalker. Correct. For example, instead of issuing threats, he might have played a guitar and sung a discordant song outside her house, or repeatedly sent her humorous messages of apology. Yes. That means its attitude would be disturbing but not scary. In this situation, when he changes and becomes more intelligent, this change would seem acceptable. And it also matches the romantic style of the story. Then it would have seemed more natural for Ira to start liking him. So the selection is wise. Either embrace the current situation and delve into its sensual depths or keep the initial tension light. In trying to combine the two, both the message and impact of the story get weakened. Ok? Suppose Musnif gets both Kamran’s character and the story’s tone right. Now the story reaches a point where the families have to be convinced for this relationship. And here the story again takes a huge shortcut. Yes, with the consent of the families, especially Ayra ‘s father. It is achieved so quickly and so easily that all the tension of the story is lost. Ayra’s father, who was originally against Kamran because of his attitude, melts away after listening to just one speech. This seems unrealistic. This is tantamount to wasting this opportunity. Where Kamran could prove his transformation in practice. It is very easy to make an emotional speech. But gaining someone’s trust in your character requires time and effort. This easy solution takes away from the story and makes Nazreen feel cheated. So how can this stage be made more challenging ? Kamran should be given a chance to prove his words with his actions. For example, instead of just saying I have changed. He should do something to win the trust of Ira’s father. Like maybe if Walid sahab is a doctor then Kamran may offer to work in his clinic for free. Oh that’s a great idea. Or bear the expenses of treatment of one of his poor patients. Or perhaps his father faces some professional difficulty and Kamran uses his skills to quietly help him. Absolutely. When the father later comes to know that it was Kamran who did it, then this act will be more effective than 1000 lectures and why only Ayra’s father, the trust of Ayra’s mother is equally important. Yes, perhaps Kamran will notice that she is interested in some social work and he will win her heart by donating his time and resources for that cause. This will show that he respects and values ​​not just Ayra but her entire family. And there is also the matter of Kamran’s own family. In the story, he also agrees very quickly. Yes, this is also a point. Wouldn’t it be more interesting if even his own parents doubted his seriousness? Absolutely. They should think that this boy was roaming around aimlessly till yesterday. How did you suddenly become so responsible today? If he has to restore his authority in his own home, his character will gain more depth. It is possible that his own father may tell him that just saying it is not enough, you should do it and show that you are worthy of this girl. This internal family conflict will make the story even richer. He will have to convince not only Ayra’s family but also his own family. And when after so much hard work and struggle the family finally agrees, that moment will be very reassuring and emotional for the viewers. That approval will feel earned. It was not received as charity. Absolutely. So the revelation is that the foundation of the story is very strong. But it needs more depth and realism. Yes. So these are our three important Naqats. First, Kamran’s transformation should be shown as a journey of inner struggle rather than a mere incident. Which includes concrete deeds and results. Correct. Secondly, continuity should be brought in the form of a story. Either the issue of harassment should be taken seriously and its psychological effects should be shown. Or the initial tension should be kept so light that it can fit into the framework of a romantic story. And thirdly, the consent of the families should be presented as a temporary measure rather than an easy solution. Where Kamran slowly wins everyone’s trust with his hard work and changed character. These changes will not only make the story more believable but also more emotionally powerful and memorable. We hope these tips will be useful to you. When you’re done with these, send us your pus again. We would be happy to see your presentation. Flattery in conversation. Okay, so today we are going to talk about Kamran. A character who has undergone a very dramatic transformation especially after his love for Ira. Yes. And the question arises whether this change in Kamran is really from the heart? And will it last or is it just a facade, a veil behind which hides the same old carefree and angry Kamran? Absolutely, I see it this way that Ira’s love has given her the opportunity to become a better person in a genuine way and she has used that opportunity. This is an interesting point. But my view is a little different. I believe that this change in Kamran is just a practical wisdom. A ploy to get Ayra. His original character is still present. There is just pressure from time to time and that is why he is not trustworthy. I understand your point but how can evidence be ignored. The biggest change is that he wins the heart of Ira’s father, Dr. Irfan, who used to hate him a lot. This is not a trivial matter. He not only apologized but also demonstrated his own recognition. He clearly told Dr. Irfan that the boy you met earlier was a stupid, rude and stubborn boy. The person standing in front of you today is someone else. Admitting you were wrong. This is the first and most difficult step towards change. Correct. And the impact of his transformation was not limited to him alone. His parents, who had not spoken to each other for years, gathered to celebrate his happiness. So it’s like a chain reaction. His strong anger is changing his entire environment. See, alphas are very powerful. And Kamran knows how to use words. But is this self-deception or just good acting? In psychology, a term is used called love bombing. In this, to achieve his goal, a person showers such arrows of love and praise that the other person becomes famous. Kamran did the same. He himself confessed to Ayra that he had never learnt to listen in his life. This is a very deep thing. This is a fundamental flaw in his personality, which Mahreen calls a sense of entitlement. He feels that he has a right to everything. So, getting Ira had become more of a challenge and an obsession for him than love. And this transformation is a way to win this challenge. When did its reality come to light? When Khawar got him the Ishtiyal. In a moment, all the changes vanished into thin air and he slapped Khawar in front of everyone. You are using the sentence about Khaveer against him. But can we ignore his siak sabak? He had not gone there to fight. He went to apologize. Which itself is proof of his transformation. Khawar provoked him continuously. Pushed him. But he continued to tolerate it. His senses were filled when Khawar pointed towards Ayra and said, you deserve a boy like this. His refusal was not for his own caste but in defense of Ayra. This was a protective weapon. To prove that he cannot tolerate the insult of the woman he loves. Is n’t it a sign of a changed person that he stands up for others instead of himself? You are calling it protective jibillat. I call that a clear example of losing control. A strong and transformed person knows that aggression is never the answer. Especially when you are trying to resolve matters for your loved ones. What was the result of that one slap? She brought immense embarrassment to Ayra’s family, especially her sister Falak’s in-laws. What Khawar’s mother told Falak over the phone created a rift between the two families. He transformed a caste issue into a major family crisis. If this is not his incompetence then what is it? He still does not think about the consequences of his actions. I believe that the results of his actions were negative. But the intention should also be considered. Sometimes even good intentions lead to bad results. But you are calling his anger his basic nature. Whereas I consider it an istasna. A moment where a glimpse of the old Kamran was seen but the reason behind it was love. Okay, let’s move on from this. Whatever happened to Khawar is somehow connected to his past. And I think the way he confessed to his Maji is very important. He said it clearly in front of Ayra. I have done a lot of wrong things in the past. I can change myself but not my past. This honesty is a very courageous act. And then he said, “This is what I’m saying , this language you gave me. Every word is for you.” This isn’t just a romantic phrase. It’s an expression of a deep feeling that Ayra has given him a new personality. I have something to say here. You call it honesty. I’d call it selective honesty. He’s only believing what Ayra already knows. His real past is much more complicated. Do you remember that strange woman in the jewelry shop? She suddenly came up to Ayra and said, “Kamran is n’t a marrying man,” and “I’m surprised a girl believes that.” This was n’t a coincidence. It was proof of his fame. Then there’s Faria’s claim that Kamran flirted with other women in front of her. All of this forms a pattern. The pattern of a man who is untrustworthy. He’s only claiming to change the part of his personality that Ayra sees. The past is like a shadow that does n’t leave easily. In Faria’s case, we must remember that she was speaking as a true lover. Her words implied caste grudges. Therefore, she cannot be considered completely disinterested. And as for the woman at the jewelry shop, she was a part of his past, which he is trying to change. People change. Their reputations take time to change. But the most crucial point on which his transformation rests is the party incident. In my opinion, it is absolutely clear that Kamran was lured into a trap. This was not a test of his character’s weakness, but a conspiracy against him. Faria herself called Khabar and said, “I want Ayra and Kamran not to get married.” I have a plan. ” They deliberately spiked his drinks so he’d lose consciousness and break his marriage. ” Wait a minute. It was a conspiracy. Okay. I agree. But Kamran put himself in this situation. The question is, why did he feel the need to party with his old friends just days before the wedding ? Especially when he knew Faria was angry with him and could do anything. Is n’t this the height of irresponsibility? A person who claims to change their life first changes their environment. They avoid people and places that could pull them back into old habits. Kamran deliberately went to his biggest trigger. Going there was his first and biggest mistake. Your point holds weight. But one thing that’s bothering me is that we’re completely ignoring his intentions. He may have gone there to improve relations, to show he had no bitterness. He could have gone with good intentions. How could he have known that his own friends would betray him like this? Instead of viewing this statement as a sign of weakness, ca n’t we view him as someone who wants to leave his old environment, but it refuses to let him go? He should be seen as a victim, not a perpetrator. I’m sorry, but I can’t believe that. This is a matter of decision, not intention. A responsible person, especially one about to marry and start a new life, does n’t take such risks. A conspiracy only succeeds if you give it a chance. He provided that opportunity. And what happened after that? Drunk, he arrived at his future father-in-law’s doorstep at midnight. This single act, in Dr. Irfan’s eyes, ruined all his efforts. He proved that when pressure is applied, when circumstances spiral out of control, he can’t be trusted. A man who has earned his trust so hard doesn’t sacrifice it so easily. It was arrogance to think he could handle such a situation. It’s a reflection of his old nature. But that Even in his state, when Dr. Irfan went to drop him home, he was respectful, despite being drunk. He was n’t abusive. This shows that his inner transformation is profound. He fell into a trap. He made a wrong decision. But his fundamental character, now based on respect , remained intact. This incident reveals a deep conspiracy against him, not a fundamental flaw in his character. Ultimately, the outcome is what matters. The result of his decision was that Dr. Irfan, his biggest supporter, became disappointed with him. He proved that he still hasn’t broken free from the influence of old habits and old friends. No matter how much he claims to have changed, his underlying stubbornness and carelessness drag him back to where he started. In conclusion, I will say that Kamran’s transformation is genuine, and his love is sincere. He has made concrete efforts to improve his character, the results of which are not only visible in his behavior, but also in his behavior. It should also be reflected in his family. Dr. Irfan’s acceptance of him and the gathering of his loyal parents for his support are proof that his transformation is not only true. He is on a difficult but genuine path of reform. The party incident was an obstacle on that path. A conspiracy based on ill-will, and it should not be seen as a separate manifestation of his character. And I have come to the conclusion that Kamran’s fundamental personality flaws—his anger, stubbornness, and recklessness—are still deeply ingrained within him. His transformation was merely a mask that fell off under pressure. His blatant rejection of Khabar and his irresponsible attitude within the party prove that he is not yet ready to become a capable, trustworthy life partner. He may have tried, but has failed to change his fundamental nature. It is clear that Kamran’s character contains contradictions that force us to draw different conclusions. This is the complexity of this character: he appears both loving and untrustworthy at the same time. It remains to be seen whether his love truly overcomes his underlying nature or whether it was merely a temporary phase. Only the audience will be able to decide whether people can truly change from the root or simply pretend to change the direction of their branches.