At 38, I find myself still living in Europe, a decision that, upon reflection, has been influenced more by practicality than by any grand ambition. The journey that brought me to this point began with an academic pursuit that spanned across continents, from Vietnam to South Korea and finally to Europe. My choice to remain in Europe, rather than return to Vietnam, was driven by a deeper understanding of where I could best apply my skills and find professional fulfillment.
When I first studied abroad, I was eager to bring my experiences and education back to Vietnam. I had completed my undergraduate studies at Hanoi University of Science and Technology, followed by further academic work in South Korea. After returning to Vietnam, I found employment and attempted to settle down. However, it soon became clear that the work culture in Vietnam did not align with my professional aspirations and skills. I realized that the competitive nature of the job market, combined with my specific background and approach, would likely place me at a disadvantage in my home country.
As a result, I left Vietnam once more, this time seeking a Ph.D. opportunity in Europe. While I did not complete my doctoral program, I found meaningful employment here and have remained ever since. The Western work environment, with its distinct cultural norms and organizational structures, better complements my skill set and professional experience. In contrast, the working culture in Vietnam, while rich in its own right, did not allow me to thrive as I had hoped. I am reminded of Peter Drucker’s words: “Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things.” In Europe, I feel that I am able to do the right things, not just in terms of work output, but also in fostering a sense of personal fulfillment.
Moreover, my decision was influenced by the independence I gained during my studies abroad. Financing my education without the help of family or state support has provided me with a level of autonomy that makes it easier to stay in Europe without feeling obligated to return to Vietnam. Although I don’t consider myself exceptionally successful, my income here allows me to live comfortably, and this stability contributes to my overall well-being. The prospect of returning to Vietnam, while attractive in terms of reconnecting with family and friends, presents significant challenges that would likely outweigh the benefits.
It is important to clarify that this decision is not a critique of Vietnam or its work culture. Rather, it is an acknowledgment of where I personally thrive best. As sociologist Richard Sennett once remarked, “The most important work is the work that we are capable of doing well and that gives us satisfaction.” For me, that work is happening in Europe. Visiting Vietnam continues to be a source of joy and connection to loved ones, but I am keenly aware that living there would be a vastly different experience for me, one that may not align with my current goals and lifestyle.
Ultimately, my choice to stay in Europe was a pragmatic one, rooted in the recognition of where I can best apply my talents and lead a fulfilling life. While the connection to my homeland remains strong, Europe offers an environment where I feel both productive and content. This decision, though not without its complexities, reflects a careful balancing of personal, professional, and cultural factors, underscoring the importance of understanding oneself in the context of the world around us.
By Amjad Izhar
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